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My dad almost set the house on fire again. The smoke alarms went off and he had thrown his ashes into a plastic trash bag and left it on the floor in the living room (which drives me insane in an of itself) and it smoldered and caught fire. The rug was starting to burn just as we got it out. Filled the house with smoke again and that awful smell is like it happened all over again. I can't take this. He has to quit or stop smoking in the house. He's going to kill us all or at the least burn down the house totally.

*cries*

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::big hug::

This is not an easy situation - it's so hard to work with a parent and get them to do the right thing. I've been fighting with my mother for over 15 years to get her knee fixed and she's at the point where she can't walk with out assistance and she can't go more than 10-15 feet. It's like banging your head against a brick wall. I hope you and your family can find a way to get through to your father. Hang in there my friend.

Oh. My. God. That is SO not something anyone should have to go through once in a lifetime, let alone twice. I'm glad a worse situation was averted and I pray you never have another.

I don't know how you are going to get your Dad to quit smoking in the house. Short of that, could you get one of the industrial cigarette butt stands (with sand) that he could use? It is not as if you are condoning it, as you are trying to avert another disaster.

You are in my thoughts.

Deb

It's a constant battle in our house to get my Mum to stop smoking, so I know how you feel there. Luckily for us, my Mum saw another doctor recently who didn't even give her the choice. "Stop smoking." were his words. If that hadn't have happened though, I was ready to start hiding her cigarettes. Is that an option for you? Who buys your Dad his cigarettes anyway?

Thank goodness this didn't turn into another disaster. Why are the older generations always so very hard to live with?

Oh man! How scary for you! My dad is just starting to get to the forgetful stae where he has sometimes not turned the stove gas all the way off at night. A couple times he didn't lock the front door on windy winter evenings. Now I just check everything in the evening if I am staying there or I call him and make him get up and check while I am on the phone if I am away. :(

OMG! I'm so sorry! *hugs* Glad you and your family, and house are safe :|

God! I feel for you! Hope you can find a way to stop him. Wish I had some suggestions.

Have a good, peaceful and SAFE Thanksgiving.

So glad you're all OK, it's very dangerous & not a great situation to be in, all the time. I have no idea how you can get your Dad to stop smoking, but just watch him when you can & good luck I'm thinking of you,,hugs to you.

Jesus, Quinn. I'm going to be very blunt here because I do not want you or your family seriously hurt because of this. Material posessions are one thing, but your life is a whole 'nother story. Some sort of intervention needs to happen. I love my dad with all my heart, but no way would he ever get away with endangering my life on a continual basis. Speak up and put your foot down. Everyone here loves you and is behind you in this. WE WANT YOU SAFE. WE WANT YOU AROUND FOR A LONG TIME, OKAY. >:D

***HUGS***

I wish there was something that could be done about your father's smoking. Does he buy his own cigarettes? Is there any way of limiting them or his location when he smokes?

Hang tough, even though it must be difficult.

I'm so sorry you had to go through this again. I'm glad your all okay. ::HUGZ::

Oh Quinn,
II'm sorry they can be stubborn. Does he even want to quit?
{{{HUGS}}}

You are very right, and you totally should put your foot down on that issue. If not no smoking indoors, then at least no smoking in carpeted rooms.

OMG. :((

I absolutely feel your pain...a stroke and a triple bypass weren't enough for my dad to finally stop smoking... he started again as soon as he came home from the hospital. :|

Your case is much worse, though...he's not just endangering himself, he's endangering you, your family and your house. I really hope you'll find a way to make him understand the gravity of the situation and in the meantime I suggest scanning his room and his possession (fuck privacy) to take away all the cigarettes from him.

*hugs*

OMG! I don't know what to say. *very big hug*

I missed this post last night. I don't know what to say, Quinn. Addiction is a powerful thing. Pair that with stubbornness and you've got a big hill to climb. If there's no way to convince him to smoke outside (and you'd think causing the first fire and endangering his whole family would have been sufficient inducement), and since you're gone all day and, possibly, the only one who will be insistent on him following this rule, maybe you can go to Home Depot and get a few bags of sand and put some sand in the bottom of every ashtray and trashcan in the house. This totally sucks.

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